Wednesday, April 21, 2010

for the roses

Do not fear death so much, but rather the inadequate life.
Bertolt Brecht (1898-1956) poet & playwright

rose marie kravitz lopo
21 september 1928 - 19 april 2010

on monday, my mother's sister rose died. auntie rose was a wonderful woman who led a more than adequate life. for more than ten years aunt rose stoically and bravely faced a number of serious health problems and many times over the years, death came calling, but aunt rose always chased death away. the grace, humor and strength auntie rose exhibited in light of her health challenges was inspiring and quite remarkable. aunt rose did not fear death, she was simply not ready, her work was not done; she had her family, especially her grandchildren and great grandchildren to love and nourish. nourish she did - with the exception of her mother, no one cooks slovak traditional dishes like my aunt rose -- aunt rose's pierogi and nut rolls could make me moan with pleasure.

but the other day when death came calling, this time aunt rose did not chase death away. I expect when death knocked on monday morning she may have welcomed death in, for only death could end the increasing pain and suffering that characterized her final months - pain and suffering than no one should have to endure. auntie rose leaves a legacy of strength, faith, humor and love and she will live on in the hearts of all that knew her.

auntie rose is not the only rose in the family that passed this week. yesterday our beloved cat rosie crossed the rainbow bridge. rosie was almost 18 years old, which would be almost 89 in human years, rosie was a complete love bug of a cat with the most remarkable ability to carry on conversations with humans and other cats. she mewed answers to questions or mewed questions expecting answers. rosie was predeceased by her sisters merlin (1/2008) and cocoa (8/09) and is survived by her sister noche.

joni first released her song for the roses in 1972 on an album with the same name.

photos: roses and other flowers on a grave at cimetière du père-lachaise; uncle andy and auntie rose, pennsylvania july 2009; rosie, february 2008


Lorenzo — Alchemist's Pillow said...

Beautiful tribute to your beloved roses. Sounds like both aunt Rose and Rosiee the cat lived long rich and enriching lives. May they BIP (blossom in peace)

Mrsupole said...

What a wonderful and long life they both lived and to pass on so close to each other. Your Aunt Rose sounds like she truly loved her family and wanted to stay for as long as possible. Your cat Rosie seemed to feel the same way and wanted to talk to you all forever.

What a blessing to have both of them in your life and they are now probably both together, keeping each other company.

You wrote a beautiful tribute to them both. My prayers and condolences go out to you and your family. One can see that they will both be dearly missed.

God bless.

ArtSparker said...

I am sorry for your losses this week, what sweet memories you have of both of them.

Wanderer said...

Your aunt looks very content in the photo. I'm sorry for your loss.

eth said...

Very sorry for your losses this week. As Lorenzo said, "May they BIP"

California Girl said...

She sounds like a strong lady and one with great charm. I was lucky enough to have an aunt I adored as well. She was a single lady, turned down all her suitors over the years, worked her entire life, took care of her 90 yr old mother when she became bedridden and was very unselfish. Aunt Va wasn't much of a cook, however.

I'm sorry to hear about both Roses. My cat's death haunts me. She was 10 so I really appreciated the cat conversion calculator.

My sympathy to you for two losses in your life.

Unknown said...

Oh that's hard--two losses like that in such short order--our thoughts are with you. The photo of your aunt shows her to have been delightful as you describe, & the photo of the flowers is stunning--really remarkable image.

mouse (aka kimy) said...

thanks everyone.... it has been a very difficult week for the roses.

lorenzo - what a wonderful concept and image - blossom in peace - life goes in full circle we die, we bloom....

once more I am reminded of the truth, wisdom and stability in remembering the 5 remembrances of buddhist thought - they bring comfort as do your comments.

the 5 remembrances are:

I am of the nature to grow old.
There is no way to escape growing old.

I am of the nature to have ill heath.
There is no way to escape having ill health.

I am of the nature to die.
There is no way to escape death.

All that is dear to me and everyone I love are of the nature of change. There is no way to escape being separated from them.

My deeds are my closest companions.
I am the beneficiary of my deeds.
My deeds are the ground on which I stand.

Watson said...

A beautiful tribute to your auntie Rose and Rosie the cat, Kimy. The thought of your auntie's perogis and nut rolls made my mouth water too!

Condolences to you and your family.

karen said...

So sorry about your two Rosies. I hope somewhere wonderful they are keeping each other company.

37paddington said...

kimy, I am so sorry for you loss. this is a lovely tribute to the roses. I send love.

Betty said...

Kimy - I'm sorry for your loss.
May you and yours know peace.