Tuesday, March 31, 2009

love and marriage

today is my parents 58th anniversary!

in lieu of a card (which, of course, I neglected to get in the mail) I would like to celebrate with a little photo essay.

All weddings are similar, but every marriage is different.
John Berger (b. 1926) art critic and novelist

The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
Robert C. Dodds (1919-1989)minister and psychologist

Shared laughter is erotic too.
Marge Piercy (b. 31 march 1936) novelist and poet

Love seems the swiftest, but it is the slowest of all growths. No man or woman really knows what perfect love is until they have been married a quarter of a century.
Mark Twain (1835-1910) humorist, writer, lecturer

The family. We were a strange little band of characters trudging through life sharing diseases and toothpaste, coveting one another's desserts, hiding shampoo, borrowing money, locking each other out of our rooms, inflicting pain and kissing to heal it in the same instant, loving, laughing, defending, and trying to figure out the common thread that bound us all together.
Erma Bombeck (1927-1996) humorist and writer


happy anniversary mom and dad! maybe next year I'll get the card in the mail, in fact, I think I've had this card for a couple years now.....

notes on photos (with the exception of the last photo all pictures were transferred from film):
  1. rita & shan's wedding day, 31 march 1951 harwood mines, pennsylvania
  2. since there are what appears to be palm trees in the picture, I expect it was taken after their wedding. I don't think they traveled together outside of pennsylvania before getting married.
  3. my parents have always had a playful and passionate relationship. this picture was snapped sometime in the late 1970s, during my dad's mustache years - I really loved his mustache
  4. my folks 50th anniversary, march 31, 2001
  5. my parents with their 'kids' at my dad's 86th birthday celebration, august 2008

sinatra, one of my parents favorite entertainers, singing "love and marriage" the vid is from the 1958 movie 'indiscreet' starring ingrid bergman and cary grant

26 comments:

Candie Bracci said...

They are so beautiful!
This post was superb really.
Love is the best thing ever.

Adam said...

happy anniversary parents!

My grandparents made it to 64 until grandpa passed on, they almost went together, but grandma "always procrastinated" according to her.

musicjunkie said...

LOVED this post! I thoroughly enjoy stories like these, it's a wonderful break from the sad and tragic stories we're inundated with on a daily basis.

Thanks for sharing!

R.L. Bourges said...

Happy Anniversary to your parents, kimy. They are so sweet in that wedding picture! Mind you, Cary Grant and Ingrid don't look too shabby either but the movie didn't last fifty-eight years :-)

I totally agree with Marge Piercy - Playful is the best.

Many more happy and healthy years to your parents, petite souris.

John Hayes said...

What a lovely tribute (& the Sinatra clip is perfect, of course). A long marriage is a remarkable thing-- my folks were married 64 years... the picture of them from the 70s is priceless.

Roy said...

What a great mini-chronicle of your parents' journey together. Congratulations to them! Nice choice of video, too. I may check to see if there's a DVD version hanging around in the RI library system; I've never seen Indiscreet.

Nan said...

I don't have words for how the photos make me feel - happy and sad at the same time. You captured their life together so beautifully. And I'm sure they would say it was better than any card!

Dumdad said...

What a wonderful travel through time. Perfect selection of photos and quotes (comme d'habitude!).

subtorp77 said...

Oh mouse! Thanks for sharing this. And a very happy anniversary to your parents. This is way better than a card! :)

gig said...

What a wonderful tribute to your folks! The quotes are so perfect and the earlier photos bring memories of my parents. What a great gift to them and all of us.

tut-tut said...

This is so lovely; what a great collection of quotes you've used, too! Happy Anniversary to them.

flawsnall said...

wow! i hope Gera and I can do this...happy long living to your parents.

Deborah said...

What a wonderful tribute to your parents, Kimy. You are very blessed to have had them in your life for so many years. Please always remember to tell them you love them often. and hug them when you visit. Wow, how cool....

Colette Amelia said...

This is indeed an accomplishment! Hoping them love and happiness for many more!

jenclair said...

What a wonderful post! I'm sure they are as proud of you as you are of them!

Squirrel said...

beautiful photos, and best wishes for your mom and dad.

Merle Sneed said...

Congrats to your parents. 58 years is fantastic.

Lover of Life said...

This was a lovely post. Your parents are so lucky to have you and each other. They were quite the "lookers" in their day.

Ronda Laveen said...

You don't need to send a card. EVER! This is far better if your lovely parents have a way to view it.

Nothin' sexier than the sheik and the aviator vignette.

Life is good...except for sometimes. said...

Once again Kimmy/mouse, you have outdone yourself artistically and sentimentally. oxoxoPaula

Marianna said...

This is probably the sweetest 'card'/post/wish I have ever seen lol

Your parents build a happy and great life together...they seem very much in love! May they have a healthy and happy life lol

Take care
peace and love
xoxo

Coffee Messiah said...

Great photos and here's wishing them many more to come ; )

mouse (aka kimy) said...

it was lovely to be able to share with all my buds in the cyberhood. thanks for the wishes and lovely comments.

fortunately my parents do have access and the ability to check out the mouse; although life is busy so sometimes it may be days before they 'check in.'

yesterday I called to wish them happy anniversary on the phone. when I was on the phone, I had my ma wander over to the mouse - she was very touched and delighted and while she was looking at the post, my dad wandered into the room, so a double delight to hear both of them go down memory lane and respond to the accompanying quotes - the erma bombeck was the biggest hit - and my mom laughed at the dodds quote remarking that she and my dad definitely never think alike - to wit I say but you do always think together!

thanks everyone, I will pass on the wishes.....

Barbara said...

Happy anniversary to the Mouse parents! They look like they have many more years to share!

Betty said...

Happy anniversary to your parents from me, too.

I can see where you get your smile. What happy photos!

WAT said...

Awesome. I'm so proud of your parents, and wish them many more years together.

This is what it's all about right here. You are very lucky to have parents that are still together like this.