Sunday, May 11, 2008

mother stands for comfort

In short, may I directly and indirectly offer
benefit and happiness to all my mothers.
May I secretly take upon myself the harmful actions
and suffering of my mothers.
verse 7 of lo jong tsi je ma (8 verses for training the mind)

according to tibetan buddhism, we have all been reincarnated so many times that everyone has been our mother in some incarnation. even if you don't believe in reincarnation, there is an important lesson in this meditation -- we need to look beyond an individual and accept that we are interconnected and act with loving compassion toward all sentient beings.

mother's day, like every 'holiday,' can be difficult for people whose mother (in the traditional sense the woman who gave birth to you or who raised you) has passed away. the holiday may also be difficult if one's mother is alive but does not meet the expectation of a 'good mother.' I offer hugs and comfort to you if today is a 'hard day.'

a week ago today I spent the day with lettuce, a friend I've known for a while, but just met. while we were wandering about we talked about mothers, motherhood, and mothering. it's only been a year since lettuce's mother died and the grief and pain over the loss of a much beloved and caring mother is still raw and at the surface. when we visited the nmai, we toured the exhibition 'our universe: traditional knowledge shapes our world.' for lettuce and for everyone who has lost their mother, I offer this quote from the exhibit and hope it provides some comfort:
Some of our elders may be gone but their breath remains. We're taking in breath, so if the old people have given their breath up, then their breath remains within our universe to help us. Even in the after life there are duties and responsibilities.
I am doubly blessed my mother is is still alive and my mom is the embodiment of a loving and caring mother. my mother is comfort. unlike the mother in the kate bush song, I expect my mother will never be faced with hiding one of her children, but she does know how and when to stay mum. thank you mom and happy mother's day!

and for your enjoyment, paul simons mother and child reunion

happy mother's day everyone!

kate bush singing mother stands for comfort (1985)

photo: my mother with her three kids, 1964 ~ guam.

p.s. I just read thomas friedman's touching tribute to his mom. as is the case for my sweet f, this year is the first year that they are not able to call their moms to wish them a happy mother's day. but perhaps both f and tom will find comfort in knowing their mom's breath is still in our universe. okay that's it for today, off to call my mom!



Barbara said...

Loved the video show. Great pictures of mothers and their children!

Aileen said...

Simply beautiful.

Thank you. You're relationship with your mom is truly a blessing.

Absolute Vanilla (& Atyllah) said...

You're blessed to have the kind of relationship with your mom that you do. It's wonderful. And thanks for the hug - much needed, dear Mouse - a deeply trying day.

TheElementary said...

Your words are so kind to mothers and to people left without them
Lovely, lovely post.

Ladrón de Basura (a.k.a. Junk Thief) said...

Why are animal babies so much cuter than the human kind? My cat thinks I am his mother, I think.

dennis said...

Dennis gave his mom a punctured vole for mother's day once.

mouse (aka kimy) said...

aileen - thanks. you are most correct, I'm very blessed.

av - I'm sad to hear you are having a deeply trying day - hugs, hugs, hugs to you across the miles.

te - thanks

jt - well you are bunter's mom.... according to some we are all each other's mother, brother, sister, and father....cosmic recycling of energy!

dennis - that was very nice of you. e gave me a punctured hole once.

Gary said...

Happy Mother's Day to you Kimy!

Steve said...

A terrific Kate Bush song, and so perfect for that post! Love the photo, too. :)

WAT said...

Paul Simon is a genius. What a brilliant songwriter. Indeed, indeed.

This is such a wonderful YouTube clip showing animals, mothers and their young. Great stuff. Really tugs at my heart strings.

I'm such a sappy emotional Cancer I know.

lettuce said...

thanks kimy

hugs and kisses